A letter to you
You are not too much.
Dear you,
You've been told you're too much.
You speak too fast.
You take too much time. Too much space.
You've tried to fit in. Worried that nobody would understand you.
You know that feeling of sharing something incredibly important to you and hearing… nothing?
And yet.
You're the one who has built your life around solving problems.
You turn challenges into solutions. Experience into expertise. Fear into courage.
What if you never needed to become less? Just find a way to express yourself.
And when someone asks… So, what do you do?
You've built your expertise around that creative way of thinking, feeling and seeing the world.
You care so much that you could spend every waking hour studying, learning, discovering things others don't even think about.
And now you've built your business around it.
But when it's time to share what you do…
Oh, that's a different story.
Sometimes your eyes light up and you share detail after detail, completely lost in your own journey.
Other times, you freeze.
As if you've forgotten who you are and everything you've been through.
Naturally, you go into solving — yourself this time.
I need more experience, more knowledge, another course, another certification.
I was arrogant to think otherwise.
I believe there is another, much better way!
What if you don't need to become someone else to be understood?
What if you need to remember who you already are?
And learn to share it in a way others can see, feel and connect with?
That's why I love storytelling.
I spent years trying to sound more professional. And somehow, I started sounding less like me.
I tried to fit in.
I struggled to sound professional and efficient, so I went to a speaking coach.
She was very helpful.
I was left with so many tips and tricks that my laptop turned into a whiteboard full of sticky notes.
Slow down.
Say less.
Be more structured.
Listen before you say anything — that's what my mum used to say as well.
I tried so hard to follow all the new rules that I forgot who I was and what I wanted to share.
I know. Crazy.
All I could think about was: Who am I to speak in front of these leaders? These important people?
Two years ago, I discovered I have ADHD. I was not surprised, but for a long time I did not want to accept it.
But I could not ignore the symptoms.
The speed of my thinking.
The intensity.
The way I could see so many possibilities but struggle to put them into one neat sentence.
And my own experience of ADHD helped me understand just how easily my brain can spot rejection, even where it might not be there.
Long before I knew ADHD in adults was a thing, I'd already started developing ways to feel more comfortable speaking.
Even when everybody was staring.
Even when I wanted to hide.
And here is where storytelling completely changed my experience of becoming… maybe not a perfectly confident speaker, but a clearer, braver one.
One where accents don't matter so much.
Perfect phrases don't matter so much.
Real stories and connections do.
Storytelling changed three things for me.
First
I started remembering who I was.
I wrote down my stories.
The challenges I'd overcome.
The decisions I'd made.
The problems I'd solved.
The situations that looked terrible at the time but eventually became opportunities.
And I started seeing things I'd forgotten.
I had done it before.
I had learned.
I knew more than I gave myself credit for.
I remembered my values and what mattered to me.
My stories became evidence of the person I'd already become.
Second
I stopped trying to remember perfect words.
I love speaking.
I really do.
But I don't have to hold on to perfect words.
So I started thinking in pictures.
Four simple pictures:
Challenge. Realisation. Shift. Result.
Instead of trying to memorise a perfect speech, I remember the moments.
What was happening?
What could I see?
What changed?
I don't tell the same story exactly the same way twice.
And I don't have to.
I know which moments matter and where I'm going.
Third
I started seeing people differently.
I became more curious.
Instead of asking the usual questions, I started asking things like:
What seemed impossible ten years ago that feels completely normal to you now?
Or what challenge once terrified you that you now know exactly how to handle?
And suddenly people started sharing stories.
Real stories.
The ones that help us understand where someone comes from, what they've learned and what matters to them.
The stories that create connection without trying to impress anybody.
You've probably heard the advice.
Slow down.
Say less.
Be more confident.
Get to the point.
I know.
I tried all of it.
And that's exactly why I work differently.
I don't want you to automatically speak more slowly or say less.
I want you to learn how to redirect your energy and use your sensitivity to read the room and connect with people.
You don't need to tell them everything.
Not every detail.
Not your entire CV.
The moments that help them see and feel the transformation you are inviting them into.
You don't have to choose between being yourself and being understood.
Why does all this matter so much to me?
Because I truly believe God created us to live different lives, learn different lessons, and share those lessons with others.
Maybe you don't see it yet.
Maybe you've spent so long trying to fit in that you've forgotten what makes you different.
But that's where I'd love to begin.
Not by changing you.
By helping you remember who you are.
And giving you the courage and structure to invite other people into your world.
I know you have so much to share.
Please, never believe you're too much.
There are so many people waiting for you to reach them.
And I truly believe your story is one of the best ways to do it.
With love,
Magdalena